Archive for January 2011

Safety for our Sweethearts!

I get lots of great questions during workshops but a very common question that parents bring up is what types of questions should they be asking before their child goes to a new friends house. You don’t have to interrogate another parent to get the answers you need. Sometimes a few key questions will be all you need to determine if you feel comfortable (or not) with your child spending time with this person.

  • Who will be home?
  • What is the planned activity?
  • Do you plan on leaving?
  • Who will be driving?
  • When can I come pick up my child?
  • How can I reach you?

Let the other adults know that your child can call you at ANY TIME if they need.  By asking questions you are helping to set clear expectations and boundaries for your child.

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Would your child pass a safety test?

Yesterday I gave a talk to a large group of parents at a local school district. A theme that I repeated often, throughout the workshop, is that we need to talk openly and often about safety, but to also model safe behavior in front of our kids.  These clips are a MUST WATCH with your children. They put several real life kids to test (under hidden camera) to see how they handle situations such as a bully, whether they would get in a car with someone they KNOW has been drinking, how they would handle a stranger coming to the door and the perils of texting while driving (and added commentary on how distracted parents are doing too much texting and talking and the negative message it is sending our kids).  Many of the points and tips in these clips are spot on to what I have talking to parents about.  Use these clips as a conversation starter. Your kids need to know what to do in these situations!  Dr. Michele Borba over saw this experiement and the results were stunning!

Would YOUR child pass these safety tests?

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Hello world!

A new year is here… and with it comes some new resolutions. Why not make family safety one of your resolutions? Here is an easy one:

Start talking safety with your kids TODAY!

Talking about safety with your kids is a bunch of little conversations. If your child is reaching a milestone (going to kindergarten, camp or new caregiver) now is the time to start talking!

 Here are some easy tips to get the conversation going.

9 months – 2 years:

Start introducing the concept of a “nice moms with kids” or a “safe mom with kids”. You can ask them to point out the “mom with kids” while shopping together so that your child will know what to do if they get lost. Make a game of it! By introducing this concept now, it will make the next level of discussion easier.

3-5 years:

 Start talking about the “Uh-oh” feeling. Let kids know that the “icky” feeling they may feel in their tummy is their body’s way of letting them know that something is not right. Encourage them to seek out a safe grown up when they get the uh-oh feeling. Let them know they are the boss of their body!

6-12 years: 
Talk about the roles and responsibilities of the adults around them. Talk about healthy boundaries. Review who their safe grown ups are. Review with your child who is authorized to pick them up from school. Ask them if anyone gives them the “Uh-Oh” feeling. Remind them to “check first” before accepting gifts or rides from anyone (even if they know the person!).
For all ages:

Remember to make talking about personal safety a fun thing. Never use scare tactics. The more you talk about safety the more your kids learn about listening to their instincts and how to make safe choices. Most importantly your kids are watching you and learning about safety so make sure you are modeling safe behavior. Listen to your instincts and let you kids know they should listen to theirs.

About the Author:  Kim Estes is the owner of Savvy Parents Safe Kids . Kim has worked with parents for over 12 years, educating them on various parenting topics.  Through non fearful techniques and easy to apply parenting strategies Kim helps parents gain the confidence they need to start talking to their kids about safety and how to keep the conversation going!

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